Last year was just a hot mess, as you might remember from my 24 post. All throughout the year I kept asking myself, “Is this bottom? Is this the day everything starts to finally rebound back up?” It wasn’t until I finally understood how to be selfish and put myself first that I ultimately started to climb up.
The word selfish has long made me cringe. Few times in my life have I considered my actions to be inherently selfish, I’m a self-proclaimed “giver” till the very end. But the moment I decided to be selfish and prioritize ME was when everything began to fall into place.
I was presented with the chance to jump start my dream career in a dream job working for and with dreamy people. The moment I said yes, my social life exploded. My stress levels dipped to an all-time low and my athletic performance to an all-time high. I have become a better friend, daughter, employee, and person. 25 has been my most selfish year yet.
Since I chose me, I’ve surrounded myself with people who expect me to be better and make me want to be better. I’ve filled my days with experiences that challenge me to grow and push and change, and I’ve filled my nights with reflection and delicious food. I’ve thrown myself into CrossFit and weightlifting and found the same comfort I could always count on since I started almost 5 years ago. Every choice I’ve made has been purely selfish and immenselyhealing. I’ve given myself permission to rise.
I am pursuing a career in a brand new industry doing something that pays me a fraction of the salary I made during my corporate career but gives me 18 times the satisfaction. I have goals that scare the pants off of me. They say money can’t buy you happiness, and I say I’ve never agreed with something so much.
Being selfish has meant learning lessons about money, about my own self worth, about what matters to me the MOST. Being selfish has brought me an immense amount of joy.
I’ve learned that being selfish means compromising certain pieces of your life to pursue the things that make you whole. It means making incredible changes to better yourself, and requires you to have little regard for the external consequences. It means choosing yourself, putting yourself first. It means finding the strength to make the changes you need to make in order to start to heal. It means finding the beauty in the strength it takes to do some of the hardest things you’ve ever done.
Selfishness makes you get down in the dirt and dig for what’s really meant to be in your life and what’s not. It’s the place you’re too scared to go. It is something I hope everyone can experience the power of.
Being selfish challenges me every single day to be better than the day before. I am more myself in every minute of every day than I have been in a long time.
So, friends, I’m here to tell you a few things:
- Be selfish. For as long as you can.
- Practice what you preach. The kind of selfishness that makes you better is the kind of selfishness that you should pursue with the intensity that you encourage others to.
- You do not need permission to be selfish from ANYONE but YOURSELF.
“Give yourself permission to rise. Surround yourself with people who expect it. Engulf yourself in things that demand it.”
Sending self love,